The hold this infant has on me is odd, given that half an hour earlier I’d never heard of him. Even now, all I know is written on a piece of paper that has just been pressed into my hand. It is a photocopy of the parish record and halfway down, in copperplate handwriting, it says that Amos Kellaway was baptised here on Christmas day 1831. His mother is listed as Elizabeth Kellaway, spinster. There is no mention of a father.
I look at the entry and feel wonder tinged with sadness. But I’m also taken aback
to find myself feeling this way about my illegitimate great-
Six months earlier, I’d been invited on a tour of my roots arranged by Ancestral
Footsteps, a travel company that organises tailor-
Ancestors are huge. Ancestry.com, the biggest database of the dead, has nearly 1.7m
paying subscribers across websites in nine countries, and a database of 7bn digitised
historical records. The craze is biggest in the English-
Genealogy tourism, combining holidays with ancestor hunts, is on the rise. A study
last year by the University of Illinois argued that the trend was the fastest-
I’ve always found the show slightly vulgar, even though I can see it’s good celebrity TV, and has a nice bit of social history thrown in. It was bad enough to have chat show host Richard Madeley wringing his hands with guilt because an ancestor killed some native Americans in 1675. But to have Jeremy Paxman, who stands for rationality and rigour, in tears about his poor relations in Suffolk was really too much.
Even the name of the programme is a sham. Who we actually are is a matter of our own personality, luck, circumstances, education, and that of our parents. It isn’t to do with a story dredged up by a clever TV producer that happened to one wing of the family a long time ago.
Ancestor scepticism is in my blood. When I told my dad I was going on a genealogical
holiday, he groaned, as I knew he would. When I asked my sister if she’d like to
spend two days in a chauffeur-
When I put these thoughts to Sue Hills, the founder of Ancestral Footsteps and a former producer on Who Do You Think You Are?, she merely smiled and said that people loved finding connections in their lives. Then I told her everything I knew about the Kellaways, which didn’t take long. My father was born in Australia, son of a doctor who died before I was born. I knew two things about him: he discovered a treatment for snakebite and he died of lung cancer. Dad’s grandfather, who my dad never met, was a clergyman. I didn’t know anything else about him at all.
I asked my father why and when his family had moved to Australia and he had no idea. Instead, he quoted something his father used to say to him: “It’s more important to be an ancestor than to have them.”
With such scant information, Hills went away to research my family. And I went away to research other people researching theirs.
In the crowded upstairs room at the National Archives at Kew in south-
I interrupt the woman nearest me and ask in a whisper what she’s up to. “I’ve found
a naughty boy,” she says, eyes popping. She tells me she’s just discovered that her
Downstairs in the canteen, an elderly woman with a despondent air eats a tuna sandwich. She tells me she has spent three days a week for the past 17 years tracing her family but has failed to turn up anything interesting. “I haven’t got any exciting ancestors. They are all farm labourers and carpenters. I sometimes wonder why I keep doing it.”
So why does she?
“It’s an addiction. I can’t stop. You open one bit, and that opens something else. It is never finished.”
At another table, a retired married couple are looking at a folder they are assembling for their grandson (whom I fear won’t care one way or another). They also admit to being addicted and spend every morning at home on the internet and the evenings at family history groups at the local library. Today they have come to Kew to look at an ancestor’s naval records. “They give a description of him. We know how tall he was! It’s like having a hit of caffeine,” she says.
“Or something stronger,” her husband corrects her.
After visiting Kew, I realise I’ve got it all wrong. Ancestor stalking isn’t about making yourself seem grander or more exotic. The fun isn’t in the facts (which are boring), it’s in the hunting. Which I think may spoil my tour, as all the hunting has been done for me.
Somewhat oddly, my personal researcher knows much more about my family than I do
A few months later I get an email from Ancestral Footprints saying that the research
into my family is complete, that great mysteries and excitement await. I’m told to
go to Wareham in Dorset; I arrive late and tired at the ancient Priory Hotel, order
a plate of cheese in the bar and go to bed. In the morning I meet my “personal researcher”,
Jo Foster. She is a Cambridge history graduate who works part-
With a flourish, she hands over my great-
I feel vaguely let down to have discovered so easily when the family went to Australia. Foster tells me not to worry. There are good secrets coming. Indeed, the Kellaways are apparently more interesting than many of the celebrities whose family histories proved too dull to broadcast. Already, such flattery is working: I’m slightly more inclined to claim my dead relatives, after all.
Foster then shows me the marriage certificate of my great-
Outside the hotel, our sleek chauffeur-
Further census searching quickly finds Jane Kellaway. She is listed as a cook at the rectory in the same town. I feel relief that she is alive and glad she’s near her son. Of Amos, there is no trace at all.
We have just arrived at Swanage, a sweet seaside town, and the car pulls up outside the stone rectory. There are no cooks inside, separated from husbands and sons. Instead, a man in a Barbour jacket cuts his grass.
Foster tells me we are going further back in history to find out more about Amos, and thus we have come to East Lulworth church.
Perhaps it’s the fact that Dorset looks timeless and ravishing in the sun. Maybe it’s the detail of Amos Kellaway’s Christmas day baptism, or the illegitimate thing but, as I touch the cold, stone font I find I am, if not quite ready to cry, thoroughly bitten and smitten.
The next stop is Dorchester record office, where three pieces of paper await us. The first is a removal order. Dated 1829, two years before Amos was born, it orders the eviction of Charles Kellaway (shepherd) and 10 children (of which Amos’s mother was one) on the grounds that they had no right to poor relief there. The parish was sending them to nearby East Lulworth instead.
The second document is a bill, headed “Re: Kellaway – a pauper” and lists the legal expenses of the case – amounting to £24, 15 shillings and 8 pence altogether, showing that solicitors fleeced their clients then, as they do now. The third piece of paper showed that East Lulworth was so desperate not to be saddled with the poor Kellaways that it appealed against the decision but lost. At least I didn’t weep seeing these documents. I laughed.
We drive to nearby Cerne Abbas where the naked chalk giant looks down on the bucolic scene from which the Kellaways were cast out. I’m trying to resist the modern urge to apply psychobabble to Amos’s disappearance. Being born into such a marginal existence, who can forgive him for later abandoning his wife and child?
But what actually happened was rather different. An earlier census record found by Foster lists “sea” as the calling of Amos Kellaway. Further research finds him in ships’ records, and reveals him to have been 5ft 6in with hazel eyes. I read this greedily, now understanding the pleasure of the woman at Kew when she found out the height of her ancestor.
Foster asks me to type “HMS Iris” and “Amos Kellaway” into Google. And there the
mystery is solved. My great-
Their story ends happily ever after. The boy gets an education and becomes a clergyman. His son, my grandfather, becomes a doctor, finds a treatment for snakebite – and loses all interest in his roots.
My story ends happily, too. I tell my father and my sister about the pauper Kellaways in beautiful Thomas Hardy country. They swallow the story hungrily, along with a big side order of humble pie.
And so who do I think I am? The truth is that I’m not who I thought I was six months
ago. I still maintain that who I am does not include impoverished shepherds or illegitimate
deserting sailors and failed gold diggers. Time has washed them away. But it does
include something less expected. Who I am now is a born-
Lucy Kellaway is the FT’s management columnist
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Dorset Echo -
FIREFIGHTERS dealt with a blaze at a pub in East Lulworth last night.
Wareham crews were called to The Weld Arms at 6pm where there was a chimney fire.
They checked the thatched roof to make sure the fire had not spread.
James Weld: Keeping it local
Lulworth Estate's James Weld doesn't need to log on to one of those burgeoning 'trace
your ancestors' websites to find out what skeletons lurk in his family's cupboard;
his family has a long and well-
Recently I met James Weld, the man who heads up that business, and I began by asking
him to tell me something of his early years. He was born in 1960. He has two brothers
and five sisters. James was educated at the Catholic school in East Lulworth, Farleigh
House in Hampshire, Downside, and the Royal Agricultural College, Cirencester, where
he did a year reading estate management. "Around this time I went off to Australia
on a single ticket with £200 in my pocket," James informs me. "I did various jobs
on farms, in vineyards, and installing kitchens, though I did draw the line at washing-
Back in England he joined Savills as a land agent and gained his letters with the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors before going on to set up his own business as a land agent in Salisbury. In 1993 he took over running the estate, an estate that has gone from having 45 people on its staff when he took over, to employing some 200 today. "We have 12,000 acres, 9,000 of which are farmland, 4,000 of which we farm ourselves," says James. "There are more than 170 houses on the estate, most of which are let to staff at around half the going rate. I believe that people are the single most important asset of any business and that it is important to keep things local and seek out ways of employing as many people in the countryside as possible."
Farming, then, is very important at Lulworth but more than 60% of the estate's turnover
comes from revenue generated by other enterprises. With the Durdle Door Holiday Park,
Lulworth Cove, the Castle, shops, pubs, property management, outdoor events, gigs,
civil marriages and wedding receptions, conferences, team building and banquets,
Lulworth, the company, the brand, has done what a lot of farming-
I put it to James that heading up a business as multi-
I ask him about outside interests. "We, that is my wife Sara and I, have three sons
Listening to James, I cannot help but be aware that here is a man who is doing what
is obviously a very demanding job but who nevertheless manages to do it with a light
touch. "I aim to make sufficient money to protect the estate and to ensure its future,
of course I do," James says. "But it is also about keeping the local community intact.
I certainly don't see myself as some sort of toff; if anything I see myself as the
boss of a medium-
Finally, I am keen to know what really annoys this easy-
Visit www.lulworth.com and www.jurassiccoasttrust.org for more information on the Estate and the Trust.
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By Lucy Kellaway
The popularity of ancestor worship means people are willing to pay thousands for
The low sun slants through the windows of East Lulworth church in Dorset. Outside, sheep graze. Yet I’m oblivious to sun and sheep: all I can think about is a baby called Amos.
Lucy Kellaway (left) and her personal researcher Jo Foster at East Lulworth church, Dorset